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How do you deal with someone who wants to change genders?
let me start by saying that I'm young.
and I know not the real ways of the world, so I come to yahoo answers to assist me in my time of need.
so I really like this girl i just met at school a while back.
but I just found out in a kind of difficult way that she would really rather be a guy.
but not it's so strange.
I mean, how can I like a girl thats a guy?
I know all that ';judge a person by their character, not sex organs'; stuff is true, but its such a strange wake up call.
does anyone have any advice about what the proper reaction to a situation like this is?How do you deal with someone who wants to change genders?
The proper reation is to respect him for who he is. He is certain he was born male, just in the wrong body. This problem is more common than you know. Just be supportive of your friendHow do you deal with someone who wants to change genders?
First you understand that they are not trying to change their gender...they are trying to do something that allows them to be the gender they already are despite the body they were born with.
So keep liking him, support him, be a friend because he's going to need a lot of friends. Go on line and educate yourself about what your friend is going to do.
It's OK to be taken aback when you learn something like this but if he is your friend tell him how you feel right now and maybe get him to explain it to you a little better.
It's not your gender identity. It's his...and get used to the pronoun because that's appropriate for this situation.
You like this person. Right? Well, what about this person do you really like? I'll bet the reasons you like him have to do with more than him having been a girl (which he never was anyway). Look into his eyes and you will see the same person. Look inside yourself first. It's not up to you to judge your friend...just love and support him on his very long journey.
He has been very uncomfortable in a body that did not match his gender for many years. Try to understand that and dwell on your reaction.
';Gender'; is not defined by the physical body, it is what is within the brain. Your friend is not trying to ';change';, she/he is trying to adjust the outside to fit the inside. The best way for you to deal with this is to just accept your friend and stand beside them. Don't judge .. study, learn and share your love for them as a Person... NOT a genital, but a gender based Person.
You might want to read ';She's Not There'; by Jenny Boylan. And the 2 books by Helen Boyd, ';My Husband Betty'; and ';She's not the Man I Married';. Although they are more focused on Male to Female changes ... the inner concepts stand true for Female to Male.
Just allow them to be who they are. If they are a free spirit then let them fly. Cherish the friendship. Sometimes nature has rules we do not understand
Yeah, react to this situation the same way you would react if you discovered that one of your best friends likes to eat cheeseburgers.
and I know not the real ways of the world, so I come to yahoo answers to assist me in my time of need.
so I really like this girl i just met at school a while back.
but I just found out in a kind of difficult way that she would really rather be a guy.
but not it's so strange.
I mean, how can I like a girl thats a guy?
I know all that ';judge a person by their character, not sex organs'; stuff is true, but its such a strange wake up call.
does anyone have any advice about what the proper reaction to a situation like this is?How do you deal with someone who wants to change genders?
The proper reation is to respect him for who he is. He is certain he was born male, just in the wrong body. This problem is more common than you know. Just be supportive of your friendHow do you deal with someone who wants to change genders?
First you understand that they are not trying to change their gender...they are trying to do something that allows them to be the gender they already are despite the body they were born with.
So keep liking him, support him, be a friend because he's going to need a lot of friends. Go on line and educate yourself about what your friend is going to do.
It's OK to be taken aback when you learn something like this but if he is your friend tell him how you feel right now and maybe get him to explain it to you a little better.
It's not your gender identity. It's his...and get used to the pronoun because that's appropriate for this situation.
You like this person. Right? Well, what about this person do you really like? I'll bet the reasons you like him have to do with more than him having been a girl (which he never was anyway). Look into his eyes and you will see the same person. Look inside yourself first. It's not up to you to judge your friend...just love and support him on his very long journey.
He has been very uncomfortable in a body that did not match his gender for many years. Try to understand that and dwell on your reaction.
';Gender'; is not defined by the physical body, it is what is within the brain. Your friend is not trying to ';change';, she/he is trying to adjust the outside to fit the inside. The best way for you to deal with this is to just accept your friend and stand beside them. Don't judge .. study, learn and share your love for them as a Person... NOT a genital, but a gender based Person.
You might want to read ';She's Not There'; by Jenny Boylan. And the 2 books by Helen Boyd, ';My Husband Betty'; and ';She's not the Man I Married';. Although they are more focused on Male to Female changes ... the inner concepts stand true for Female to Male.
Just allow them to be who they are. If they are a free spirit then let them fly. Cherish the friendship. Sometimes nature has rules we do not understand
Yeah, react to this situation the same way you would react if you discovered that one of your best friends likes to eat cheeseburgers.
Does your assumption about someone's gender change how you view their parenting advice (ridiculously long)?
I have been going back and forth on the ethics of this since I started this account, but in the last few days, most notably in the question about crushes on me and someone’s statement about how valuable my opinion is specifically because they see me as a dad, I’ve decided that my position has become indefensible.
I’m female. I’m a married mom of four kids. I used to post here as “mom as 4”. After being seriously harassed by a couple of creepy people, I started a new account with a male avatar (with a gender-neutral name) with the sole intention of ending the harassment. It worked beautifully; the harassment stopped. [Interestingly, my questions and answers, which previously were perceived as totally unremarkable, suddenly began to be showered with compliments. I could write an entire book on what I’ve learned about how people treat someone based on their perceived gender. ]
In my defense, such as it is, I’ve never once said I’m male. Never once. I’ve said explicitly on this board that I don’t reveal everything about myself online and that though I wouldn’t lie, I would and do allow other people’s misimpressions of me on here to stand uncorrected. I’ve never answered a single question directed towards dads or men, or to which I thought my gender was somehow relevant to evaluating my answer (and I’ve answered hundreds of questions directed towards moms and women).
Every single thing I’ve ever said in any question or answer is true; every opinion I’ve given is my own; every fact I’ve shared about my experiences with my kids is real; my exchanges with all of you, whether I like you or not, have all been utterly genuine. My face doesn’t match my avatar, but I am exactly what you’ve seen in all other ways. The avatar was never for a second intended to deceive real users, just to put off creepy trolls. I’ve kept my email off largely because I thought that developing that kind of personal relationship ethically required revealing my real gender. It was never my intention to seek out or make friends on this board at all; that has happened quite by accident. I honestly never expected to be particularly noticed on this board, and even if I were, I didn’t think my gender would be relevant. I’ve had dozens of conversations with real-life friends who assured me that my gender was irrelevant to my opinions and there was nothing wrong with using a male avatar on an anonymous site like this one; I’ve even had multiple exchanges with people on this board where virtually everyone said that they wouldn’t care about something like that. I allowed myself to be reassured by those exchanges, but at this point I’ve decided I should not have. I shouldn’t have done it, and I regret it.
So, there it is. I am “desmeran,” but desmeran is not a guy. I hope nobody cares. If you do care, you have my apology. And if you’re all sufficiently irked, or if the “boy who cried wolf” effect is strong enough that you find it hard to believe anything else I say, then I can acknowledge that I brought that on myself, and I suppose that will probably be a good impetus for me to finally go do something more productive with my day. If you want me to stay out of your questions, please make that clear by blocking me, and I will honor that.
Off to change my avatar and absorb some well-earned criticism.Does your assumption about someone's gender change how you view their parenting advice (ridiculously long)?
it is human nature to judge a book by it's cover. LOL, good experiment. Many of us coincide that a man could not possibly know how to parent as well as a more experienced mother. Your disadvantage in your experiment is the fact you/or someone else identified you as a lawyer. That made you smart in the eyes of the world, and no matter what your advice people would be more prone to listen to you, even if you appeared to be male.Does your assumption about someone's gender change how you view their parenting advice (ridiculously long)?
wow interesting. I think I remember you as mom of 4. I am shocked and while I sort of feel deceived, I totally understand why you did it and the outcome was interesting, I grew to love Des, but I'm pretty sure I loved you as mom of 4 as well.
i only thought you were male because of others calling you ';Uncle Des'; but I dont care if you are male, female of even something in between. you make me laugh, even if your kid does have smelly feet!!!!
Wow! Your still a cool person :)
Now I get why on your other answer, you said your avatar does not resemble you in the least ;)
Wow I'm speechless! Your still my fav though and I'll always greatly appreciate and value your opinion.
Whew! How does being ';out of the closet'; feel? I'm so proud of you!!! LOL
Wow amazing! I still love your questions and answers!
Rofl :-)
I thought you sounded familiar!
I've been suggesting to my husband that he come on here %26amp; flirt around a bit for fun, since the girls really seem to love a man who parents like him ;-)
ETA: You've made my day right now. How fun! I'm singing ';Did I ever tell you you're my hero'; in my head for you right now :-p
OK - and one more ETA, because I didn't answer your question... ';Does your assumption about someone's gender change how you view their parenting advice?';
Only in that it makes me stop to think, if the 'man' is presenting himself as a thoughtful, gentle, concerned, involved parent, ';Wow this is cool how the world is changing! And, this guy sure is strong, emotionally, to buck societal expectations %26amp; live in a way that he knows is right for him and for his family'; But, the advice itself has to stand on it's own merits.
i have never read any of your questions, except for this one. but i have seen your answers from some of my contacts, and i thought you were a guy to only because of the avatar. but man or woman, i don't care what you are. apparently im not on enough to catch one of your questions. :)
Well - I am newer to the boards than some, and not as new as most. I only came across this question because of the crush one... and then I thought someone had stolen your identity. I now know different.
I am of a position that I always looked forward to your answers because of the fact that you seem to have the rules and advice that I always want. The things I want to apply to my house and feel opposed by my spouse. I am not always strong enough to believe that the way I want things are the right way. I am getting there though and sometimes just need to be reaffirmed. For some, people like me, this is sometimes really important. YA gives advice, jokes, and a camaraderie that some of us don't have in real life.
I did look forward to the male perspective of it, but overall the answer is the important thing. I always wished you would accept friends, so maybe this is a blessing! lol... Thank you for your personality, and your candor, and I hope this doesn't effect your YA relationship too much!
Looking forward to many more answers (boosters) from you --- Schmee.
So you aren't that less-than-romantic guy I thought you were? ; )
Okay... Here's what I got out of this experiment (and I'm sure you are all too familiar w/ this)... I've made myself more cautious of how I word things..... You won't see me asking a question that is directed to the *moms* on this board. Lesson learned. That's it. : )
Nothing else has changed. I still view you as a parent that I admire and enjoy. Hey, at least now I can say I love desmeran and not feel awkward, lol. ...... And, you do know what this is going to do to Charli, right?
No criticism from me. You did what you had to do to fend of internet stalkers. You ever deliberately lied to anyone.
For the very short time that I have come to know you ..... about as far as last week, when everyone was calling me a troll, you stood out to me, but probably because you ';were'; a man. Besides Mr Wybie, you were the only man that answered my questions.
Your answers are always very good and like most others said, who cares male or female, inny or outy, no difference really when it came to your answers.
You truly seem like a very nice lady and its totally understandable why you did it too.
honestly I think people do make assumptions about gender when it comes to raising children,because in more cases than not a man doesn't really take care of his children,they see it as a mothers job not a fathers job.When people see a father taking an active role in their children's live they think WOW he is a good man,but if you are a mother taking an active role in your children's lives they see it as a duty that you are suppose to do...but yeah this is actually funny kind of like undercover research.
Well, I always assumed you were a man, based on your avatar, but that's not why I liked you. I like your opinions. You did seem sensitive (is that the word?) for a man, but also honest, rational and intelligent...and like a good parent, which is all that matters on here!
I'm surprised...but not offended.
I think I can explain the compliments though...your answers seem insightful and correct...and it was amazing that they'd be coming from a man...No offense to any dad's in the room. That was one of the reasons that I'd scroll down to see your answers...quite honestly.
That's not to say that men aren't excellent parents too or that they don't also have great advice...I just find that not only is that more true for women...but men also don't seem to communicate the same way.
So to have found an insightful male parent on an advice board, communicating articulately and insightfuly...that was amazing in and of itself...lol
In any case...I'm with Johnny's mom...I'm shocked, but not offended and will be thoroughly confused if you go and change your avatar and your name.
:)
Holy. Mary. Mother. Of. God.
Welps, now that the initial shock has warn off, I still value your opinion Ms. Des (or would you prefer Mrs. Des?).
I harbor no resentment or ill feelings towards you, now will you allow me to add you as a contact???
*Interesting to note that it does make Charli's whole fantasy about you dancing to Footloose in legwarmers just as funny!*
I admire your honesty , rather male or female. I think people did have more interst due to the fact it was coming from ';a male perspective';. Not that men don't have good parenting skills , they just usally don't talk about it as much.
You can still give us your insight, values views, and all the things that you did, but like the others have said it wont be as special, because it is expected more from moms.
You can still answer my questions, and I will still answer yours.
the thing that will confuse me more is having to look for your avatar and name lol
Desmeran, I love you, will you be my contact NOW? Lol. Nothing's changed but I will have to adjust my fantasies. Congrats on coming out.
WOW!!!!! I missed this earlier (although I saw and answered the question from Johnny's mommy). Yes, I am surprised and maybe the open minded me I thought I was needs and overhaul. The picture really did look male though and the name being ambiguous. Now I feel silly. You wrote a question about missing children once and I said you were thinking like a man;) We love ya no matter whether you're xy xx or yyy or yza:)
Wow.I have to admit I am shocked.But ether way I respect you as a parent and a person.I think you give great advice.I guess nothing really has changed you are still the same person.You are des or what ever your name is.I still respect your answers because they are good advice.
Your answers are what matters. They are good answers. I will hope that you continue to answer the questions I have with the same thoughtfulness. And I will answer yours the same. And I don't even know if you want my answers.
Wow, I'm shocked, I never would have guessed. But, NO my opinion still has not changed, we still ♥ you!
First, I will admit I didn't read ALL of it (I affectionately blame my ADD), but I am shocked. It's very interesting how it all panned out though. And to admit I had a ';crush'; on your intelligence is embarassing hahaha. You really had me fooled with your male avatar and your compassion and intelligence that a lot of men seem to lack (at least on this board). You stood out soley because of your male avatar and ';represented'; men in a positive way. I'm definately not angry, just shocked and suprised!
i am touched. i am taking you at complete face value. thats all i have. i commend you. i am in awe of you. i find you to be an excellent woman. i have always admired your views on equality and wondered how exactly a man could have so much insight into issues i deem ';woman'; ones, in my own mind, of course. i don't mean to be sexist w/that statement at all. it is just my own personal experience with the world around me.
des my dear you are a resource that this board needs very much. please do not go away because of this. it would be too sad.
you owe us not an explaination, but since you did, that is character that is uncommon. to shower you with more praise i feel would just make you uncomfortable, so i will just say - thank you for your honesty. :-)
Everyone has spoken pretty much what I would say ! You sound really sincere, but I don't think I can picture you as a mom lol :-) I've had two accounts before, and both I deleted because people were rude and permissive. You did answer some questions I asked in those accounts, and from then on I was a fan. You honestly changed my perspectives on men, and in hope that there are some really decent men %26amp; fathers out there who play active and vital roles in their children's lives.
You always were and are always gonna be deserman, the fabulous parent with good ethics and morals ::: but everyone on this broad just assumed you were a dude !!!
WTF? Didn't you see my *confession* Q yesterday?? You could've posted this there and saved 5 points!!
But I a shocked as well! I guess I tend to believe what people on here tell me, since I have no other way of knowing the truth.
I'm not mad or angry, you are who you are whether it's male or female. I still believe that your opinions are still the truth and that's all that matters.
I suspected, Desmeran, because you never referred to your 'wife' only your spouse!
i can be a pretty sharp marble, sometimes!
I did defend you once though, when someone posted a question about whether desmeran was a male or female.
But this new revelation does not make me want you to stay out of my questions~ not sure why it would. If anything, bring all your answers on!
Huh... Your answers always stuck out to me because my husband is a SAHD and is just as involved as you are (not always the case with husbands).
Either way, who cares IMO.
Don't care if your a man or woman. I do respect the way you have with words however and a lot of people listen to you. So keep up the good advice. Now the men haters are coming out. Thank you.
I take a few days off to deal with an asthma attack and we've got MAJOR developments. Interesting.
Well, congrats to you on your study in human behaviors towards the different sexes :)
I’m female. I’m a married mom of four kids. I used to post here as “mom as 4”. After being seriously harassed by a couple of creepy people, I started a new account with a male avatar (with a gender-neutral name) with the sole intention of ending the harassment. It worked beautifully; the harassment stopped. [Interestingly, my questions and answers, which previously were perceived as totally unremarkable, suddenly began to be showered with compliments. I could write an entire book on what I’ve learned about how people treat someone based on their perceived gender. ]
In my defense, such as it is, I’ve never once said I’m male. Never once. I’ve said explicitly on this board that I don’t reveal everything about myself online and that though I wouldn’t lie, I would and do allow other people’s misimpressions of me on here to stand uncorrected. I’ve never answered a single question directed towards dads or men, or to which I thought my gender was somehow relevant to evaluating my answer (and I’ve answered hundreds of questions directed towards moms and women).
Every single thing I’ve ever said in any question or answer is true; every opinion I’ve given is my own; every fact I’ve shared about my experiences with my kids is real; my exchanges with all of you, whether I like you or not, have all been utterly genuine. My face doesn’t match my avatar, but I am exactly what you’ve seen in all other ways. The avatar was never for a second intended to deceive real users, just to put off creepy trolls. I’ve kept my email off largely because I thought that developing that kind of personal relationship ethically required revealing my real gender. It was never my intention to seek out or make friends on this board at all; that has happened quite by accident. I honestly never expected to be particularly noticed on this board, and even if I were, I didn’t think my gender would be relevant. I’ve had dozens of conversations with real-life friends who assured me that my gender was irrelevant to my opinions and there was nothing wrong with using a male avatar on an anonymous site like this one; I’ve even had multiple exchanges with people on this board where virtually everyone said that they wouldn’t care about something like that. I allowed myself to be reassured by those exchanges, but at this point I’ve decided I should not have. I shouldn’t have done it, and I regret it.
So, there it is. I am “desmeran,” but desmeran is not a guy. I hope nobody cares. If you do care, you have my apology. And if you’re all sufficiently irked, or if the “boy who cried wolf” effect is strong enough that you find it hard to believe anything else I say, then I can acknowledge that I brought that on myself, and I suppose that will probably be a good impetus for me to finally go do something more productive with my day. If you want me to stay out of your questions, please make that clear by blocking me, and I will honor that.
Off to change my avatar and absorb some well-earned criticism.Does your assumption about someone's gender change how you view their parenting advice (ridiculously long)?
it is human nature to judge a book by it's cover. LOL, good experiment. Many of us coincide that a man could not possibly know how to parent as well as a more experienced mother. Your disadvantage in your experiment is the fact you/or someone else identified you as a lawyer. That made you smart in the eyes of the world, and no matter what your advice people would be more prone to listen to you, even if you appeared to be male.Does your assumption about someone's gender change how you view their parenting advice (ridiculously long)?
wow interesting. I think I remember you as mom of 4. I am shocked and while I sort of feel deceived, I totally understand why you did it and the outcome was interesting, I grew to love Des, but I'm pretty sure I loved you as mom of 4 as well.
i only thought you were male because of others calling you ';Uncle Des'; but I dont care if you are male, female of even something in between. you make me laugh, even if your kid does have smelly feet!!!!
Wow! Your still a cool person :)
Now I get why on your other answer, you said your avatar does not resemble you in the least ;)
Wow I'm speechless! Your still my fav though and I'll always greatly appreciate and value your opinion.
Whew! How does being ';out of the closet'; feel? I'm so proud of you!!! LOL
Wow amazing! I still love your questions and answers!
Rofl :-)
I thought you sounded familiar!
I've been suggesting to my husband that he come on here %26amp; flirt around a bit for fun, since the girls really seem to love a man who parents like him ;-)
ETA: You've made my day right now. How fun! I'm singing ';Did I ever tell you you're my hero'; in my head for you right now :-p
OK - and one more ETA, because I didn't answer your question... ';Does your assumption about someone's gender change how you view their parenting advice?';
Only in that it makes me stop to think, if the 'man' is presenting himself as a thoughtful, gentle, concerned, involved parent, ';Wow this is cool how the world is changing! And, this guy sure is strong, emotionally, to buck societal expectations %26amp; live in a way that he knows is right for him and for his family'; But, the advice itself has to stand on it's own merits.
i have never read any of your questions, except for this one. but i have seen your answers from some of my contacts, and i thought you were a guy to only because of the avatar. but man or woman, i don't care what you are. apparently im not on enough to catch one of your questions. :)
Well - I am newer to the boards than some, and not as new as most. I only came across this question because of the crush one... and then I thought someone had stolen your identity. I now know different.
I am of a position that I always looked forward to your answers because of the fact that you seem to have the rules and advice that I always want. The things I want to apply to my house and feel opposed by my spouse. I am not always strong enough to believe that the way I want things are the right way. I am getting there though and sometimes just need to be reaffirmed. For some, people like me, this is sometimes really important. YA gives advice, jokes, and a camaraderie that some of us don't have in real life.
I did look forward to the male perspective of it, but overall the answer is the important thing. I always wished you would accept friends, so maybe this is a blessing! lol... Thank you for your personality, and your candor, and I hope this doesn't effect your YA relationship too much!
Looking forward to many more answers (boosters) from you --- Schmee.
So you aren't that less-than-romantic guy I thought you were? ; )
Okay... Here's what I got out of this experiment (and I'm sure you are all too familiar w/ this)... I've made myself more cautious of how I word things..... You won't see me asking a question that is directed to the *moms* on this board. Lesson learned. That's it. : )
Nothing else has changed. I still view you as a parent that I admire and enjoy. Hey, at least now I can say I love desmeran and not feel awkward, lol. ...... And, you do know what this is going to do to Charli, right?
No criticism from me. You did what you had to do to fend of internet stalkers. You ever deliberately lied to anyone.
For the very short time that I have come to know you ..... about as far as last week, when everyone was calling me a troll, you stood out to me, but probably because you ';were'; a man. Besides Mr Wybie, you were the only man that answered my questions.
Your answers are always very good and like most others said, who cares male or female, inny or outy, no difference really when it came to your answers.
You truly seem like a very nice lady and its totally understandable why you did it too.
honestly I think people do make assumptions about gender when it comes to raising children,because in more cases than not a man doesn't really take care of his children,they see it as a mothers job not a fathers job.When people see a father taking an active role in their children's live they think WOW he is a good man,but if you are a mother taking an active role in your children's lives they see it as a duty that you are suppose to do...but yeah this is actually funny kind of like undercover research.
Well, I always assumed you were a man, based on your avatar, but that's not why I liked you. I like your opinions. You did seem sensitive (is that the word?) for a man, but also honest, rational and intelligent...and like a good parent, which is all that matters on here!
I'm surprised...but not offended.
I think I can explain the compliments though...your answers seem insightful and correct...and it was amazing that they'd be coming from a man...No offense to any dad's in the room. That was one of the reasons that I'd scroll down to see your answers...quite honestly.
That's not to say that men aren't excellent parents too or that they don't also have great advice...I just find that not only is that more true for women...but men also don't seem to communicate the same way.
So to have found an insightful male parent on an advice board, communicating articulately and insightfuly...that was amazing in and of itself...lol
In any case...I'm with Johnny's mom...I'm shocked, but not offended and will be thoroughly confused if you go and change your avatar and your name.
:)
Holy. Mary. Mother. Of. God.
Welps, now that the initial shock has warn off, I still value your opinion Ms. Des (or would you prefer Mrs. Des?).
I harbor no resentment or ill feelings towards you, now will you allow me to add you as a contact???
*Interesting to note that it does make Charli's whole fantasy about you dancing to Footloose in legwarmers just as funny!*
I admire your honesty , rather male or female. I think people did have more interst due to the fact it was coming from ';a male perspective';. Not that men don't have good parenting skills , they just usally don't talk about it as much.
You can still give us your insight, values views, and all the things that you did, but like the others have said it wont be as special, because it is expected more from moms.
You can still answer my questions, and I will still answer yours.
the thing that will confuse me more is having to look for your avatar and name lol
Desmeran, I love you, will you be my contact NOW? Lol. Nothing's changed but I will have to adjust my fantasies. Congrats on coming out.
WOW!!!!! I missed this earlier (although I saw and answered the question from Johnny's mommy). Yes, I am surprised and maybe the open minded me I thought I was needs and overhaul. The picture really did look male though and the name being ambiguous. Now I feel silly. You wrote a question about missing children once and I said you were thinking like a man;) We love ya no matter whether you're xy xx or yyy or yza:)
Wow.I have to admit I am shocked.But ether way I respect you as a parent and a person.I think you give great advice.I guess nothing really has changed you are still the same person.You are des or what ever your name is.I still respect your answers because they are good advice.
Your answers are what matters. They are good answers. I will hope that you continue to answer the questions I have with the same thoughtfulness. And I will answer yours the same. And I don't even know if you want my answers.
Wow, I'm shocked, I never would have guessed. But, NO my opinion still has not changed, we still ♥ you!
First, I will admit I didn't read ALL of it (I affectionately blame my ADD), but I am shocked. It's very interesting how it all panned out though. And to admit I had a ';crush'; on your intelligence is embarassing hahaha. You really had me fooled with your male avatar and your compassion and intelligence that a lot of men seem to lack (at least on this board). You stood out soley because of your male avatar and ';represented'; men in a positive way. I'm definately not angry, just shocked and suprised!
i am touched. i am taking you at complete face value. thats all i have. i commend you. i am in awe of you. i find you to be an excellent woman. i have always admired your views on equality and wondered how exactly a man could have so much insight into issues i deem ';woman'; ones, in my own mind, of course. i don't mean to be sexist w/that statement at all. it is just my own personal experience with the world around me.
des my dear you are a resource that this board needs very much. please do not go away because of this. it would be too sad.
you owe us not an explaination, but since you did, that is character that is uncommon. to shower you with more praise i feel would just make you uncomfortable, so i will just say - thank you for your honesty. :-)
Everyone has spoken pretty much what I would say ! You sound really sincere, but I don't think I can picture you as a mom lol :-) I've had two accounts before, and both I deleted because people were rude and permissive. You did answer some questions I asked in those accounts, and from then on I was a fan. You honestly changed my perspectives on men, and in hope that there are some really decent men %26amp; fathers out there who play active and vital roles in their children's lives.
You always were and are always gonna be deserman, the fabulous parent with good ethics and morals ::: but everyone on this broad just assumed you were a dude !!!
WTF? Didn't you see my *confession* Q yesterday?? You could've posted this there and saved 5 points!!
But I a shocked as well! I guess I tend to believe what people on here tell me, since I have no other way of knowing the truth.
I'm not mad or angry, you are who you are whether it's male or female. I still believe that your opinions are still the truth and that's all that matters.
I suspected, Desmeran, because you never referred to your 'wife' only your spouse!
i can be a pretty sharp marble, sometimes!
I did defend you once though, when someone posted a question about whether desmeran was a male or female.
But this new revelation does not make me want you to stay out of my questions~ not sure why it would. If anything, bring all your answers on!
Huh... Your answers always stuck out to me because my husband is a SAHD and is just as involved as you are (not always the case with husbands).
Either way, who cares IMO.
Don't care if your a man or woman. I do respect the way you have with words however and a lot of people listen to you. So keep up the good advice. Now the men haters are coming out. Thank you.
I take a few days off to deal with an asthma attack and we've got MAJOR developments. Interesting.
Well, congrats to you on your study in human behaviors towards the different sexes :)
Can you do anything if you dont get approved for a gender change?
can you get a second chance? and how do they see that you are okay for a gender change? I know you have to live for a long time as an opposite gender, but how do they decide who can get a gender change and who cant? do they look after your personality?
what if someone wants to become the opposite gender but started doing things like crossdressing as an adult? can they still get a gender change? I know from documentaries that people who get a gender change never felt comfortable with their body since they were children.Can you do anything if you dont get approved for a gender change?
I have never heard of this ';Don't get approved'; thing. I've heard of some therapists saying people are not ready or they don't believe in such antics. But there really is no official from they fill out and stamp denied on. If one therapist or psychologist says no you are free to talk to another. Of course if a string of them say no, maybe there is something they are telling you that you are not hearing.
As to what you can do, you can do anything that doesn't require major surgery and hormones. If you are a guy you can stat electrology, cross dress, get make up, even build up a female persona. If you are a woman, the options are similar. In some states you can even swap out your name to something gender netural on your DL, with little or no fuss, you could even in most states get a legal name change.
All you really need a doctors approval for is hormones and surgery and in many cases if you swap your gender out fully, many doctors would give you a pass on hormones and surgery since you've showed intent.Can you do anything if you dont get approved for a gender change?
i think you should get a second opinion. no one can tell you that you cant get a gender change. its your body. and as long as you're paying for it...they cant tell you different.
Well I do know that there are psychiatric evaluations involved. If you are rejected there are appeals that can be made. Thats pretty much all ya can do, seeing as there is no such thing as a ';back-alley'; sex change and, well.... the silence of the lambs approach is kinda creepy
what if someone wants to become the opposite gender but started doing things like crossdressing as an adult? can they still get a gender change? I know from documentaries that people who get a gender change never felt comfortable with their body since they were children.Can you do anything if you dont get approved for a gender change?
I have never heard of this ';Don't get approved'; thing. I've heard of some therapists saying people are not ready or they don't believe in such antics. But there really is no official from they fill out and stamp denied on. If one therapist or psychologist says no you are free to talk to another. Of course if a string of them say no, maybe there is something they are telling you that you are not hearing.
As to what you can do, you can do anything that doesn't require major surgery and hormones. If you are a guy you can stat electrology, cross dress, get make up, even build up a female persona. If you are a woman, the options are similar. In some states you can even swap out your name to something gender netural on your DL, with little or no fuss, you could even in most states get a legal name change.
All you really need a doctors approval for is hormones and surgery and in many cases if you swap your gender out fully, many doctors would give you a pass on hormones and surgery since you've showed intent.Can you do anything if you dont get approved for a gender change?
i think you should get a second opinion. no one can tell you that you cant get a gender change. its your body. and as long as you're paying for it...they cant tell you different.
Well I do know that there are psychiatric evaluations involved. If you are rejected there are appeals that can be made. Thats pretty much all ya can do, seeing as there is no such thing as a ';back-alley'; sex change and, well.... the silence of the lambs approach is kinda creepy
HEEEELP!!! How do i change genders in Rumble Fighter!??
in the beginning i accidently Chose a female striker, i dont care if i have to install or any thing! if there is a way to delete my OG acct please tell me how!!!HEEEELP!!! How do i change genders in Rumble Fighter!??
See if there's a doctor on the game willing to do a sex change.HEEEELP!!! How do i change genders in Rumble Fighter!??
You can buy a new class with a different gender for 5k carots if you are willing to do it
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See if there's a doctor on the game willing to do a sex change.HEEEELP!!! How do i change genders in Rumble Fighter!??
You can buy a new class with a different gender for 5k carots if you are willing to do it
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Monday, November 22, 2010
Have you ever wanted to be the opposite gender for even a day?
Lately I've been thinking about it, what it would be like..Which is odd since I'm the sort of person who doesn't agree with gender roles, thinks gender is rather flimsy, and thinks that both genders are equal in every way. I'm more curious on how people act toward males then females.
I swear for like two minutes once I thought I was transgendered, but I think of myself as being female and I like being female so..
Anyway, do you think if you changed genders for a day anything would really change? Other then your friends and families reactions?Have you ever wanted to be the opposite gender for even a day?
Just to experiment with myself. ;)Have you ever wanted to be the opposite gender for even a day?
besides getting to pee wherever i want i
dont think anything would change cause
the truth of the matter is when it all comes
down to it we're all human.myspace pics bath towel smell bad
I swear for like two minutes once I thought I was transgendered, but I think of myself as being female and I like being female so..
Anyway, do you think if you changed genders for a day anything would really change? Other then your friends and families reactions?Have you ever wanted to be the opposite gender for even a day?
Just to experiment with myself. ;)Have you ever wanted to be the opposite gender for even a day?
besides getting to pee wherever i want i
dont think anything would change cause
the truth of the matter is when it all comes
down to it we're all human.
How come, you can change your gender, but you can't change your age? (explained...)?
Okay, so you might want to change your gender, because let's say, you feel like you're not really a girl, or a guy. Or you feel you would be happier as a girl or as guy, or whatever.
But what if you're... 24, and you don't feel like being 24, because you're just not ready to be 24, because you've gone through emotional things in your life or something? Couldn't you be able to change your age?
You might say, ';No, you have to just be your age, and just take responsibility for it.';, but wouldn't you have to say that to a guy or girl who wanted to get a gender change done, also?
I would like to see if this idea is okay to have, and if it is wrong, why. This isn't an arguement, I want to see if this is okay thinking.
(btw, I'm not 24, ;D, I'm 16, and this isn't for me, I'm just wondering.)How come, you can change your gender, but you can't change your age? (explained...)?
Technically, you can't change the gender you're born with. It may seem it, but you still have the ';inside parts'; of your gender.
As for why you can't change your age, I think it's deeply inside your brain. Your body has also grown to accustom your age, so if you wanted to go from 24 to...12, to say, you would be more ';developed'; and grown than anyone in school.How come, you can change your gender, but you can't change your age? (explained...)?
crank
Well i see your point. But it's impossible to go back or forward in time and lets say if you are 24 and you decide to change your age (like you can go and change your name) you're still gonna be 24, no matter what you do.
Your gender can be physically changed, but your age can't.
this is one of the dumbest questions I've read in my life. You can't change your age, you are what you are. Maybe if you had a time machine?
We are able to make ourselves physically look like a male or female. You can get breast implants and cut your.. package off and vise versa (I think?) but how can we ACTUALLY make ourselves look 18 when we're actually 30. That's what people try to do, but no matter what, you will always be your age. That's the same with your sex as well, you can look/act/walk/talk/etc like a male/female but you will always be your natural sex.
It's different with names because you can change your name and you have a new one. It doesn't come back to haunt you because you're new.... with your sex/age, it's always there no matter what.... I guess that's what I'm trying to say. It sounds better in my brain.
gender is gender, no matter what the time
unless you have a time machine, age sticks. you can have an op to *look* younger/older, you can *act* younger/older, but the fact remains you've been alive for 24 years...
because youcan't go back in time, you can't change your age but since you can do sex change you can change your gender
Well, witness Protection will sometimes not only change a name, but age too...
But seriously, you were born at a certain time, in a certain year, that is fact and can't be changed.
You can buy creams, have cosmetic surgery, lie flat out but the fact remains you were still born that day, in that year, at that time.
Remember Pounce de Leone and the fountain of yputh? Well, he still grew old and died just like the rest of us will barring accidents. No matter what we do we can't change our age.
We can change our appearance to look the best we can, exercise and diet...but again, same day, same year, same time.
because its eaiser to chop off a ding dong than it is to shave off a couple extra years.
...because we don't have the technology to turn back the aging process.
Sweetheart, of course you aren't ready to be 24, you are 16. If a twenty four year old isn't ';ready'; - that person has some serious psychological and/or emotional issues, which need to be addressed by a trained professional. Believe it or not, those people are out there, at any age.
As for ';age'; - you talk about chronological age. ';Real age'; is different: the healthier you are the younger you are, as a fully grown adult, not a teenager. Smoking, sedentary living, mental laziness all make people older than their chronological age. (There are some other types of ';ages';, which I forgot) . It is an interesting subject, look into it.
I think you mean ';how come...your SEX...'; (not ';gender';).
Gender has to do with grammar. Essentially, there are three: masculine (has nothing to do with maleness), feminine (has nothing to do with femaleness), and neuter (which is neither masculine nor feminine gender).
';Gender [Lat. genus=kind], in grammar, subclassification of nouns or nounlike words in which the members of the subclass have characteristic features of agreement with other words.';
More recently, of course, ';gender'; has been used in non-grammatical senses.
';Gender role'; has to do with role acquisition and behavior based on masculinity/femininity, equal to maleness/femaleness.
';Gender'; as you used it, having to do with one's physical sex and, in this case, sexual apparatus.
';Gender status,'; having to do with the supremacy of one sex over the other in the culture or community. In most cultures, that supremacy belongs to the men, and is used by them to define themselves relative to women, but more importantly to define and limit women to a narrow set of definitions.
(It was this last, in 1911, that led Dr. Alfred Adler to break with Freud's group, and in their 1912 debates to put forth the concept of ';masculine protest'; as another way to explain women's neuroses.)
Regarding your question: Sex is defined by physiological characteristics as well as social norms (see above). Age is defined by the passing of time using clocks, day/night, hours, years, decades, etc. You may pretend to believe you are younger than you are (or older), and you may try to act younger (or older) but you are a specific age, and no other.
Your question reminds me of my mother (dead since 1998) who, in her 80s was visiting me in CT. She was looking at her hands, then looked at me and said, ';When did I get so old? I still feel like I'm 17 inside!'; That was my mom...always 17!
But what if you're... 24, and you don't feel like being 24, because you're just not ready to be 24, because you've gone through emotional things in your life or something? Couldn't you be able to change your age?
You might say, ';No, you have to just be your age, and just take responsibility for it.';, but wouldn't you have to say that to a guy or girl who wanted to get a gender change done, also?
I would like to see if this idea is okay to have, and if it is wrong, why. This isn't an arguement, I want to see if this is okay thinking.
(btw, I'm not 24, ;D, I'm 16, and this isn't for me, I'm just wondering.)How come, you can change your gender, but you can't change your age? (explained...)?
Technically, you can't change the gender you're born with. It may seem it, but you still have the ';inside parts'; of your gender.
As for why you can't change your age, I think it's deeply inside your brain. Your body has also grown to accustom your age, so if you wanted to go from 24 to...12, to say, you would be more ';developed'; and grown than anyone in school.How come, you can change your gender, but you can't change your age? (explained...)?
crank
Well i see your point. But it's impossible to go back or forward in time and lets say if you are 24 and you decide to change your age (like you can go and change your name) you're still gonna be 24, no matter what you do.
Your gender can be physically changed, but your age can't.
this is one of the dumbest questions I've read in my life. You can't change your age, you are what you are. Maybe if you had a time machine?
We are able to make ourselves physically look like a male or female. You can get breast implants and cut your.. package off and vise versa (I think?) but how can we ACTUALLY make ourselves look 18 when we're actually 30. That's what people try to do, but no matter what, you will always be your age. That's the same with your sex as well, you can look/act/walk/talk/etc like a male/female but you will always be your natural sex.
It's different with names because you can change your name and you have a new one. It doesn't come back to haunt you because you're new.... with your sex/age, it's always there no matter what.... I guess that's what I'm trying to say. It sounds better in my brain.
gender is gender, no matter what the time
unless you have a time machine, age sticks. you can have an op to *look* younger/older, you can *act* younger/older, but the fact remains you've been alive for 24 years...
because youcan't go back in time, you can't change your age but since you can do sex change you can change your gender
Well, witness Protection will sometimes not only change a name, but age too...
But seriously, you were born at a certain time, in a certain year, that is fact and can't be changed.
You can buy creams, have cosmetic surgery, lie flat out but the fact remains you were still born that day, in that year, at that time.
Remember Pounce de Leone and the fountain of yputh? Well, he still grew old and died just like the rest of us will barring accidents. No matter what we do we can't change our age.
We can change our appearance to look the best we can, exercise and diet...but again, same day, same year, same time.
because its eaiser to chop off a ding dong than it is to shave off a couple extra years.
...because we don't have the technology to turn back the aging process.
Sweetheart, of course you aren't ready to be 24, you are 16. If a twenty four year old isn't ';ready'; - that person has some serious psychological and/or emotional issues, which need to be addressed by a trained professional. Believe it or not, those people are out there, at any age.
As for ';age'; - you talk about chronological age. ';Real age'; is different: the healthier you are the younger you are, as a fully grown adult, not a teenager. Smoking, sedentary living, mental laziness all make people older than their chronological age. (There are some other types of ';ages';, which I forgot) . It is an interesting subject, look into it.
I think you mean ';how come...your SEX...'; (not ';gender';).
Gender has to do with grammar. Essentially, there are three: masculine (has nothing to do with maleness), feminine (has nothing to do with femaleness), and neuter (which is neither masculine nor feminine gender).
';Gender [Lat. genus=kind], in grammar, subclassification of nouns or nounlike words in which the members of the subclass have characteristic features of agreement with other words.';
More recently, of course, ';gender'; has been used in non-grammatical senses.
';Gender role'; has to do with role acquisition and behavior based on masculinity/femininity, equal to maleness/femaleness.
';Gender'; as you used it, having to do with one's physical sex and, in this case, sexual apparatus.
';Gender status,'; having to do with the supremacy of one sex over the other in the culture or community. In most cultures, that supremacy belongs to the men, and is used by them to define themselves relative to women, but more importantly to define and limit women to a narrow set of definitions.
(It was this last, in 1911, that led Dr. Alfred Adler to break with Freud's group, and in their 1912 debates to put forth the concept of ';masculine protest'; as another way to explain women's neuroses.)
Regarding your question: Sex is defined by physiological characteristics as well as social norms (see above). Age is defined by the passing of time using clocks, day/night, hours, years, decades, etc. You may pretend to believe you are younger than you are (or older), and you may try to act younger (or older) but you are a specific age, and no other.
Your question reminds me of my mother (dead since 1998) who, in her 80s was visiting me in CT. She was looking at her hands, then looked at me and said, ';When did I get so old? I still feel like I'm 17 inside!'; That was my mom...always 17!
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